You know you are in a healthy relationship when both people genuinely feel that in the relationship they are:
Safe
Equal
Respected
Independent
Free to be themselves
Never scared or intimidated
Communication & Boundaries
These are the main components of a healthy relationship:
Healthy communication
In a healthy relationship, both people gain a deeper connection and understanding of each other by:
Treating each other with respect
Speaking openly with each other
Genuinely listening to each other
Avoiding criticizing each other
Supporting each other
Celebrating each other’s success
Healthy boundaries
In a healthy relationship, both people respect boundaries and don’t restrict each other’s freedom to:
Spend time with family and friends
Participate in hobbies or activities
Express thoughts and opinions
Choose if and when to have sex
Refrain from uncomfortable things
Not constantly be accused of flirting
Resources
Learn more about equity and what to do if a relationship isn’t healthy:
Equality Wheel
In contrast to the Power & Control Wheel that illustrates the dynamics of an abusive relationship, the Equality Wheel highlights the components of a healthy relationship.
If a relationship doesn’t involve healthy communication and boundaries, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s abusive. It does suggest that it’s important to learn more about relationship violence.