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Despite more than 4 in 5 Americans believing otherwise, alcohol is biologically and statistically proven not to make someone violent. The fact is that not everyone who drinks becomes violent, not everyone who is violent drinks and solving one’s substance abuse problem doesn’t solve their problem of using abusive behaviors.
Technological innovation is often referred to as a double-edged sword. An appropriate comparison is to fire which can be useful to cook our food and keep us warm but can also cause us pain and devastation. Perhaps the greatest validation of this metaphor is the use of technology in abusive and controlling relationships.
A figure in the shadows. Anonymous calls and texts. Someone following or watching from afar. An unfamiliar car parked outside. These are all images that we associate with stalking and although these behaviors are among the most common, they are most often committed not by a stranger but by one of the closest people to us.
You want to spend all your time with them. You want them to constantly check-in. You love them so much you don’t want to share them. These can all seem like signs that someone is “head-over-heels”, however, they can all be early warning signs of isolation in an abusive relationship.
What do you picture when you think of relationship violence? Raised fists? Black eyes? Backhanded slaps? Punching holes in the wall? Smashing things? Although those are all acts of physical abuse, they only scratch the surface of the behaviors used to maintain power and control in a relationship.