Healthy Relationships

What makes a relationship healthy?

Trust. Honesty. Support.

You know you are in a healthy relationship when both people genuinely feel that in the relationship they are:

  • Safe
  • Equal
  • Respected
  • Independent
  • Free to be themselves
  • Never scared or intimidated

Communication & Boundaries

These are the main components of a healthy relationship:

Healthy communication

In a healthy relationship, both people gain a deeper connection and understanding of each other by:

  • Treating each other with respect
  • Speaking openly with each other
  • Genuinely listening to each other
  • Avoiding criticizing each other
  • Supporting each other
  • Celebrating each other’s success

Healthy boundaries

In a healthy relationship, both people respect boundaries and don’t restrict each other’s freedom to:

  • Spend time with family and friends
  • Participate in hobbies or activities
  • Express thoughts and opinions
  • Choose if and when to have sex
  • Refrain from uncomfortable things
  • Not constantly be accused of flirting

Resources

Learn more about equity and what to do if a relationship isn’t healthy:

Equality Wheel

In contrast to the Power & Control Wheel that illustrates the dynamics of an abusive relationship, the Equality Wheel highlights the components of a healthy relationship.

What if it's not healthy?

If a relationship doesn’t involve healthy communication and boundaries, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s abusive. It does suggest that it’s important to learn more about relationship violence.